Shabbat Shalom Weekly
Torah Portion: Lech Lecha
Abraham Reaches Out To Help
by Rabbi Yehuda Appel
The Talmud describes the afterlife as “a world turned upside down.” This means that many of the people who have been given little respect here on earth will be accorded much honor in the afterlife, and conversely many who were prominent in this life will receive little attention there. In other words, from our vantage point here on earth, we simply have no way of knowing the true righteousness of people.
Rabbi Aryeh Levine, known as the “Tzaddik of Jerusalem,” told of a cobbler he would see everyday in the Jerusalem marketplace. Though they never really spoke with one another, whenever he passed the cobbler’s way, something would compel Rabbi Aryeh to put some money in a charity box the cobbler had placed in his store. Then one day, out of the blue, the cobbler invited the rabbi to a special meal commemorating the completion of a tractate of Talmud.
At the celebration the following night, Rabbi Aryeh found the cobbler teaching a group of elderly Jews the last passage of the Zohar, the core text of Jewish mysticism. Listening to their discussion, Rabbi Aryeh — himself a great Kabbalist — was overwhelmed by the group’s great profundity and understanding of Kabbalah. The next morning, Rabbi Aryeh went to seek out the cobbler. When he arrived at his shop, however, he found the doors shut. The cobbler had passed away the night before.
Jewish tradition teaches that in every generation there are “36 hidden Tzaddikim” — people whose presence justifies the world’s existence. This cobbler may have been one of them.
But it is not always a good thing that righteousness be “hidden.” A classic example is found in this week’s Torah portion, Lech Lecha. In the parsha, Abraham is told by G-d to “leave your land, your birthplace, and the house of your father — and go to the land that I will show you.” The commentaries explain that had Abraham stayed in Haran, he would not have been blessed with children; the lack of holiness in Haran would not have allowed the birth of the great Isaac, the only patriarch never to leave the land of Israel. So if Abraham was to have Isaac, he had to go to the Holy Land.
Abraham’s journey to Canaan was a great test. Leaving his parents behind, he did not know whether he would ever see them again. Moreover, venturing into a foreign land was always dangerous, as one never knew what kind of welcome there’d be from the natives! But the possibility of receiving G-d’s blessings — and obeying G-d’s will — encouraged Abraham to make the journey.
Though this journey was for Abraham’s benefit, the Midrash makes clear it was also for the world’s benefit. The Midrash likens Abraham to a bottle of perfume: As long as the bottle is sealed, no one can enjoy its scent. But once it has been opened, everyone can benefit. In a similar vein, the Midrash explains, as long as Abraham remained in Haran, people in other lands could not be exposed to him or to his message. Abraham’s journey thus allowed others to share in his revolutionary concept of monotheism.
The Chafetz Chaim, the spiritual leader of European Jewry in the early 20th century, severely censured people for not taking such a “journey.” Ibn Paquda, author of the ethical classic “Duties of the Heart,” insists one must be willing “to get down into the mud, and if need be also become muddied, to help people rise from spiritual devastation.”
Of course, there are limits to the risks one should take. For example, we are not to endanger our own lives in order to help others.
The bottom line is that the paths we walk are very narrow, and though a person may appear to be righteous, in truth his actions may be self-serving.
We must be dedicated to helping others as well. And it is only in the next world that the full and unadorned truth will be revealed.
Knowing Your Place
by Rabbi Boruch Leff
Lot and insubordination
Oftentimes we fail to glean insights and lessons from the less famous Biblical personalities such as Lot.
“Lot who?”
Lot is Abraham’s nephew and this week’s Torah portion describes Lot’s steadfast dedication to his Uncle Abraham. And Lot went with him — vayelech Ito Lot (Genesis 12:4)
Abraham had followed God’s directive to leave his comfortable homeland, birthplace, and family and travel to Israel. Lot decides to join Abraham in this difficult task.
Later, when Abraham is forced to leave Israel and go to Egypt in order to survive a bitter famine, Lot once again follows Abraham both in his journey to Egypt as well as in Abraham’s return to Israel. The Torah, however, expresses Lot’s actions with a slight and subtle difference. This subtlety will prove to be Lot’s transformation.
The Torah states: Abraham went up from Egypt with his wife and all that was with him, and Lot was with him — V’Lot Imo (Genesis 13:1)
In translation, the difference is not even noticed. In English both words mean ‘with him.’ But in the actual Hebrew, the first verse says ‘Ito’ while the second one uses the word ‘Imo.’ The Torah never haphazardly chooses words or expressions. Why would two expressions, which seem to mean the same thing, use two different words?
In answering, we must first analyze Lot’s personality in general by referring to other places in Lech Lecha where Lot exhibits strange behavior.
Later, Lot becomes wealthy, as does Abraham (Genesis 13:2-12). A dispute arises between Abraham’s shepherds and Lot’s shepherds over the scarcity of grazing land for their flocks. Abraham tells Lot that they can no longer live together and they must separate in order to provide enough land for both of them. Lot quickly and easily agrees.
Question: Wasn’t Lot a close student of Abraham’s teachings? Isn’t that why Lot left his comfortable homeland and followed Abraham? What would you do if your aged, wise, and respected mentor and elder reported to you of a dispute between your workmen and his? Wouldn’t you try to work it out in order to be able to continue to learn and grow from your mentor at all cost? Why didn’t Lot? Wouldn’t you be embarrassed before your mentor? Why wasn’t Lot?
There is another quandary of Lot’s puzzling behavior. The entire Chapter 14 describes a large scale World War to which Abraham enters, fights and helps win for his side. Why did Abraham enter this war? Verse 14, tells us directly: Abraham heard that his relative (Lot) was taken captive and he armed his men….and he gave chase as far as the land of Dan.
At the end of the chapter, we find Abraham receiving words of gratitude and the offering of gifts from the various kings that Abraham fought for and helped them win the war. But nowhere do we find any gratitude from Lot! No words of thanks, not even a conversation between Lot and Abraham.
Abraham, even without the fact of his being Lot’s mentor, just saved Lot from death and Lot can’t even bring himself to thank Abraham?
Let us return to the two Hebrew words for “with him” — ‘Imo’ vs. ‘Ito’. Yes, both words mean ‘with.’ But in Hebrew, ‘ito’ has its word root as ‘et’. ‘The word ‘et’ is used to precede a subject in order to give emphasis to the subject. In its very essence, then, ‘et’ is subordinate. When Lot was originally with Abraham he knew his role. Abraham was the wise, talented, teacher and leader. Lot was the faithful, trusted, and able student.
In order to succeed in virtually anything, one has to know his talents and limitations. Imagine an offensive lineman in football who thinks he is the quarterback. Or imagine a gifted auto technician who thinks he is the CEO. Such people will not only fail in their dream positions, they will also fail in the jobs in which they are truly talented.
Lot went from a proper perspective of ‘Ito’ — subordination — to a disastrous one of ‘Imo’. ‘Imo’ means I am with you as an equal. When Lot returned from Egypt laden with wealth and resources, he became ‘Imo’. He no longer viewed himself as subordinate to Abraham.
Like so many in world history, his newfound wealth and power destroyed Lot’s proper perspective. He now felt that he would be as important as Abraham. This also explains why he ran away at the first opportunity: he did not want to have to always look to Abraham for guidance. It was time for him to be the one to give others guidance. He wanted to free himself from the shackles of having a mentor.
Even when Abraham puts his life on the line for Lot in the war, Lot refuses to acknowledge that he owes Abraham anything. For by doing so, he would once again have to see himself as subordinate to Abraham and he could not bring himself to admit to that reality.
We are all Lot at times. We can be stubborn in our mindsets and fail to admit the reality that our co-workers or our bosses, our spouses or our friends, are truly more experienced and/or talented in particular areas. It’s important to know when to lead, but it is equally important to know when we must subordinate ourselves to others, and be happy about our occasional secondary roles.
After all, what would famous great quarterbacks like Dan Marino or Joe Montana be without good, subordinate, offensive lines? Dead meat.
Don’t Give Up Hope
by Nesanel Yoel Safran
From this week’s Torah Portion
When it comes to things that are worthwhile, we should never give up hope. Abraham and Sarah were childless for many, many years and had reached the age when most people would have long given up hope of ever having a child. Yet they continued to hope and pray for a child to love and to follow in their footsteps teaching the world about God. In the end, God answered their prayers and gave them a child — Isaac. We can learn from here, the power of not giving up hope.
In our story, a girl helps her friend discover the power of hope.Fall carnival was something Kim and her friends looked forward to all year. When carnival was in town, permanent smiles painted all the kids’ faces nearly as big as the ones on the clowns in the clown show.
That’s why Kim was so surprised while walking through the carnival to come across her friend, Janet, sitting and frowning on a bench next to one of the crowded booths, her head resting glumly on her hand.
“Hey, Janet, what’s the matter?” she asked her, concerned.
“Oh, hi Kim,” her friend answered somberly. “I’m really upset. I just discovered that I lost the locket I was wearing.”
“Ouch. That’s too bad. Is it something valuable?”
“Well, yeah, especially to me. It has a picture of my grandmother who passed away last year. We were really close. She always called me her ‘twin granddaughter’ because she looked just like me at her age. The locket has the only picture I have of her as a child and it, like … you know, helps me still feel connected to her. And now it’s gone!”
“That’s awful! Did you look all over for it?”
Janet shrugged. “I looked around where I found out it was missing and near some of the rides I went on, but no luck – it’s hopeless.” Janet lowered her head into both her hands – until she felt a tug on her arm. She looked up.
“Janet, you can’t give up,” Kim insisted. “That locket’s too important to you. Come on, let’s keep looking – I’ll help you.”
The two girls started to search the carnival grounds, row by row, looking on the ground and asking the people running the booths if they’d seen it, but nothing was turning up.
“Kim, I appreciate your wanting to help,” Janet said with a sigh, “but let’s face it, we’re never going to find it. This carnival is huge, full of people and even if someone did find it, why wouldn’t they just keep it themselves?”
Kim shook her head.
“No, Janet. Don’t give up hope. Think about your grandma. Let’s just keep looking a little more, okay?”
“I do want to find it. I so much want to have hope, but…” Suddenly a little boy walked up to them and pointed to Janet excitedly.
“Hey, I know who you are!” he said loudly. Janet looked at the boy but didn’t recognize him.
“What do you mean?” she said, confused.
“I know who you are, because…” he repeated as he reached into his pocket and pulled something out. “You’re her!” he said, pointing to the picture in the open locket.
Her locket!
“See, Mommy — it’s the girl in the picture. Now we can give back the necklace I found on the ground, right?”
The young boy, with his smiling mother standing behind him, handed Janet the locket.
“Oh! I … I just can’t believe this! Thank you both soooo much!” Janet gushed as she held the locket close to her heart. “And thank you! “she said, turning to Kim. “For helping me keep on looking – and keep on hoping.”
Discussion Questions
Ages 3-5
Q. How did Janet feel about her chances of finding her locket?
A. She felt like giving up since it seemed impossible.
Q. How did Kim help her feel?
A. That she should keep on looking and hoping that she’d find it.
Ages 6-9
Q. What life-lesson do you think someone could learn from this story?
A. Many times when a person has a problem or challenge, she can feel like giving up on finding a solution, but often, if we just keep hoping and trying, in the end things will work out.
Q. Is there ever a time that it’s right to give up hope?
A. Sometimes things are final and there is literally nothing left to do, but until that point, if we’re aiming for something important and worthwhile, it never hurts — and often helps – to hope.
Ages 10 and Up
Q. Our sages teach that a person shouldn’t give up hope even if the blade of the sword is on his neck. How do you understand this?
A. Even if a tough situation looks virtually impossible to overcome, we should retain our hope and know that God can save and help us in ways we could never imagine.
Q. Do you think a person’s hoping for something can affect physical reality?
A. Our thoughts are very powerful and can actually cause changes in physical reality. Strong hopes – especially when those hopes are directed toward God – can have a real and visible impact on our lives.
Quote of the Week
“Let me fall if I must fall. The one I will become will catch me” — The Baal Shem Tov
Joke of the Week
About 90 fifth-graders from Tel Aviv piled into an El Al airliner heading off to summer camp in New York. Once in the air, the crew began serving drinks, and the kids got extremely rambunctious. The Captain could hear the flight crew pleading with the children to settle down and let the other passengers get some sleep.
No amount of reasoning seemed to help, until the Captain thought of the solution that actually worked. He picked up the PA microphone in the cockpit and announced, “Children, this is the Captain speaking. Don’t make me stop this airplane and come back there!”
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